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Harnessing Emotional Control: Your Key to Effective De-Escalation Aug 27, 2025

In self-defense and conflict management, physical techniques often get all the attention—but the ability to de-escalate a tense situation before it turns physical? That’s the real magic. And the foundation of that magic is emotional regulation.

Emotional regulation is your ability to keep your cool...

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Self-Defense Starts Before the Swing: Mastering Situational Awareness Aug 20, 2025

Self-defense doesn’t start when someone throws a punch. If it gets to that point, you’ve already missed multiple opportunities to steer clear of the problem entirely. One of the most overlooked—and most valuable—self-defense tools is your ability to pay attention: to the people, the energy, the envi...

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Most Common Self-Defense Myths #4: Violence Comes Out of Nowhere Aug 13, 2025

Welcome back to Most Common Self-Defense Myths, where we cut through the clichés and half-truths that hold people back from real safety. If you've been following the series, you know we’ve already tackled:

  • Myth #1: You won’t know your attacker

  • Myth #2: Fighting back always makes it worse

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Most Common Self-Defense Myths #5: Size and Strength Don’t Matter Aug 13, 2025

Welcome to the final post in our Most Common Self-Defense Myths series. Over the last four blogs, we’ve broken down some of the biggest misconceptions in the self-defense world—from the myth that your attacker will be a stranger to the belief that violence is completely random. Now we’re finishing s...

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Most Common Self-Defense Myths #3: Carrying a Weapon Will Keep You Safe Aug 06, 2025

Welcome back to our blog series Most Common Self-Defense Myths, where we peel back the layers of hype, fear, and fantasy that often cloud real conversations about safety. Myth #1 tackled the false belief that your attacker will be a stranger. Myth #2 challenged the idea that fighting back always mak...

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Most Common Self-Defense Myths #2: Fighting Back Always Makes It Worse Jul 30, 2025
Welcome back to our blog series Most Common Self-Defense Myths, where we dissect the assumptions that mislead, misinform, and ultimately leave people more vulnerable than empowered. If you missed Myth #1, check it out to learn why the idea that you "won't know your attacker" is one of the most dange...
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Most Common Self-Defense Myths #1: You Won’t Know Your Attacker Jul 23, 2025

Welcome to our new blog series, Most Common Self-Defense Myths, where we challenge some of the most widely accepted but deeply flawed assumptions about personal protection. These myths don’t just misinform people—they shape how we train, who we trust, and what we prepare for. Our goal? To get real a...

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What Is Self-Defense? Jul 16, 2025

A Modern Guide to Understanding Real-World Personal Protection

Let’s get right to it—what is self-defense?

At first glance, this seems like a simple question. But spend five minutes in a martial arts forum or scroll through a few viral self-defense videos, and you’ll quickly see that the answer is...

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17 Rules for Protesting Safely in 2025 Jul 09, 2025

Self-Defense for When You Choose to Step Into Risk

Self-defense is usually about staying away from danger—avoiding it, buying time, de-escalating, or getting out clean. But every once in a while, an issue comes along that’s too big to ignore. Sometimes the safest thing isn’t staying home—it’s stand...

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Aftermath of Violence: Cultural Retaliation and the Case of Ella Hill Jul 02, 2025

What Happens After You Survive

In this case study, we’re going to look back at a story that’s not new, but continues to echo loudly in how we understand the long-term aftermath of violence, especially the parts we still don’t talk about enough: cultural backlash and social punishment for speaking o...

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Anthony Smith’s Home Invasion: Revisiting a Reality-Based Self-Defense Case Study Jun 25, 2025

Was this the holy grail story self-defense instructors needed—or a cautionary tale we misunderstood?

It’s been a few years since UFC fighter Anthony Smith made headlines after a violent home invasion shook his household. And while every “reality-based” self-defense coach rushed to use this story as...

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Punching in a Street Fight: Is This the Best Plan? Jun 18, 2025

Should you punch in a real fight? This question comes up in every martial arts gym, dojo, or self-defense seminar, and the answers are usually rooted in tradition, stylistic bias, or instructor preference. But let’s take a step back and look at the science, injury risk, and real-world application—es...

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